Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Egypt voices: Sexual harassment

Egypt voices: Sexual harassment
Wednesday, 3 September 2008
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/7593765.stm#noha
Photos at website

Noha Wagih
TV announcer
"I usually don't answer back, but this time I did"

Posy Abdou
Shop worker
"I get harassed 100 times a day "

Nora Khaled
School pupil
"I was so scared and embarrassed, I cried"

Nancy Fakhr
Engineer
"When colleagues asked what was wrong, I lied"

Zeinab Boulaki
Auditor
"My mother says I shouldn't answer back but I think this is wrong"

Hoda Gallal
Housewife
"People gathered around but were not sympathetic"

Reem Ibrahim
Auditor
"I try to stop it but nothing works"

NOHA WAGIH


Once I was out driving with my brother when he stopped at a
supermarket and I waited for him outside. Two guys got out of a car
and walked towards me in an intimidating way. They started commenting
on the way I look and the way I'm dressed.

I usually don't answer back, but this time I said: 'I'm not here to
get picked up, you know.' This was too much for one of them who
started shouting that I was crazy. I replied that even if I were a
prostitute, I wouldn't give him a second glance.

This made him mad. He came right up to me, shouting that he was a
policeman and he would 'show me'. In no time three more cars pulled
up, and a group of men got out and started yelling at me and my
brother.

I wrote down the number of the first car saying I was going to report
him. He got so angry I thought he was going to beat me, so I slapped
his face and started shouting 'Rape!' They all ran away, and I was
left alone with my brother shaking with fear.

After this experience I want to make a programme for TV about sexual
harassment.

POSY ABDOU


I get harassed 100 times a day. I tried everything to stop it but it
doesn't stop. I wear loose clothes, I don't wear make up, I spend
more than an hour in front of the mirror everyday thinking of ways to
hide my body.

I walk home everyday. It only takes me 15 minutes, I cross the
bridge. It is usually very loud and busy, but that does not stop men
from approaching girls, any girl, good looking or bad looking,
covered or not.

I remember so many scary harassments. There was this guy who followed
me and suddenly grabbed my bottom in front of everyone. I screamed
but he ran away and no one interfered.

Once I was shopping with my father and aunt, and this guy kept
staring at me and blowing me kisses. My dad shouted at him and
started hitting him. I think men are doing this because they are
jobless and have no manners.

NORA KHALED

I get harassed everyday, during the five minutes I walk from my
house to the main street to take the school bus.

Also in the seconds I cross the street when I finish my swimming
class at the sports club.

I was waiting for the school bus once when a microbus driver followed
me and kept calling me very bad names.

I was so scared and embarrassed, I cried.

NANCY FAKHR


I don't walk a lot in the streets, because I have a car. But I get
harassed by guys driving close to me, they try to grab my attention,
it could lead to accidents.

The worst harassment I remember was last winter. I didn't have my car
and I was sleeping over at my sister's house. I got up at 0700 to
catch the bus and go to work. A guy followed me and kept calling me
very bad names. I was horrified and I started walking fast, even
running.

When he got very close to me, I was scared he would touch me, so I
picked a stone from the floor and threw it at him and ran as fast as
I could until I got to the main street and took the bus.

I was shaking and trembling. When I arrived at work, I collapsed and
cried for a long time. When my colleagues asked me what is wrong, I
lied and said I have family problems.

ZEINAB BOULAKI

I get harassed whenever I walk down the street; even during the
seconds I cross the street to take my car.

Yesterday, when I was parking the car in front of my house, a guy
grabbed my bottom, I shouted at him, and insulted him. At least I did
something about it.

My mother says I shouldn't answer back, but I think this is wrong.
This way they will think they can harass anyone and get away with it.
I know that shouting at someone who harasses me verbally or
physically is not enough but at least it makes me feel better than
doing nothing.

HODA GALLAL

I get harassed every day, although I am always carrying my baby. I
thought being a mother would make me immune to harassment, but it
made it even worse.

Once I was waiting for the bus with my child and a car stopped, the
guy waved his hand at me with a 20 pound note. It was unbelievable.
Another time I was walking home and this guy unzipped his trousers in
a car next to me.

I screamed, but he shouted back very aggressively, saying 'Who do you
think you are? Why would I even look at you?' People in the street
gathered around us and to my surprise they were not sympathetic with
me. They supported him. They all defended the guy because they do the
same thing.

Once I was walking with a friend and this guy suddenly grabbed her
from behind. We shouted for help and he ran away. A car stopped, they
asked us what had happened, had we been mugged? When we told them
that we'd been sexually harassed, they drove away. Isn't this worse
than robbery?

REEM IBRAHIM

I get harassed a lot. I can't count the number of times, especially
on public transport.

There was this guy who kept following me from one bus to another. If
I stood up he stood by my side and if I sat down he sat beside me.
Finally I shouted at him and insulted him, he left the minibus.

I stopped wearing skirts, and stopped doing my hair at the
hairdresser's, I also stopped wearing make up, even my fiance asks me
why aren't you taking care of your looks as you used to do.

But what can I do, I try to stop it but nothing works. I used to
always have a smile on my face while walking down the streets, now I
am always frowning, always provoked, always feeling the threat of
someone approaching me physically or verbally.

At a bus or a microbus, I always feel there is a hand trying to touch
me. It happened so many times, that I keep looking at the seat behind
me as if I am crazy.

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